On my lunch break I have a couple of things I like to do to help me relax and rejuvenate.<\/p>\n
I eat.<\/p>\n
I really can’t stress enough how important that one is, but if you haven’t yet learned that food fuels the body and mind and therefore soul, well, you’ve got more to work on than I can probably help with.<\/p>\n
I frequently go for a walk.<\/p>\n
Ahhhh, fresh air.\u00a0 Today I am skipping the walk so as to bring you a small rant.\u00a0 That and my body needs a break from yesterday (pilates class and a trip down to, and UP from,\u00a0Wreck Beach<\/a> = 474 stairs<\/a> of interesting nature).\u00a0 But normally I like to get out for a half an hour of good walking.\u00a0 Well, okay, largely because it’s summer and the days are good for that.\u00a0 I’ve done a lot of visits to the Rose Garden<\/a> as well.\u00a0 Ah, July, when they are all in bloom and the smell wafts thither and fro, mmmmm.<\/p>\n I read Regretsy<\/a>.<\/p>\n It soothes my snarky soul.<\/p>\n I read Not Always Right<\/a>.<\/p>\n And thus begins my little rant. On Not Always Right people share work stories that highlight the remarkable…encounters they have with their clientele.\u00a0 Okay, people are stupid.\u00a0 And many of the stories highlight that people are stupid.\u00a0 But it’s not the stupid that’s gotten to me.<\/p>\n No, what’s making me grit my teeth is the repetitive examples of people who lie or yell or often lie and yell at the employee to get their own way.\u00a0 Such as lying that the employee got a hair in their sandwich (when it was their daughter’s hair) so as to get a refund & a free bagel.\u00a0 They’ll lie about who served them, what they were served, the state something was in, etc, etc.\u00a0 People are lying so that they can gain something for nothing.\u00a0 People are yelling and screaming at employees to again get something for essentially nothing.\u00a0 In some of the stories it is even acknowledged by the perpetrator that they’re doing it because that’s how you get something for free.<\/p>\n This froths my ire.<\/p>\n What happened to the land of personal integrity?\u00a0 Of behaving as a decent human being?<\/p>\n When did it become so engrained into society that instead of curbing such behaviour we have somehow engendered its propagation.\u00a0 I see many notices of being positive of being friendly and kind pushed around on facebook.\u00a0 I think that these are lovely if not always realistic (because somedays you’re going to get mad and is it really wrong to get that way?)<\/p>\n As I type this the thought occurs to me that this push to always be nice is simply the other side of the coin of the push to always be an asshole in order to get ahead.\u00a0 I’m not saying it’s wrong to be nice or right to be mean, not at all.\u00a0 But what about the folks on Regretsy who talk a mean line but who are frequently very generous, supportive and kind?\u00a0 What about the sweet people who can’t be bothered to actual help someone else?<\/p>\n The point is, we are neither always kind nor always cruel, not in our humanism.\u00a0 We are both, a swirling mix of chocolate and vanilla into a marble cake (ohhhhh, cake) of positive and negative experiences and expressions.<\/p>\n And at the core of both of these is an inherent selfishness, isn’t there?\u00a0 The squeaky wheel is out to get whatever they can by whatever means (typically negative) they can.\u00a0 If I yell enough, someone will give me something to shut me up.\u00a0 Many people I think learn this in childhood from their parents – if I scream loud enough, my mommy will give me that cookie even though she said no originally (so parents, keep to your ‘no’s!).\u00a0 And no, I’m not blaming all parents, but there is a component there, don’t you think?<\/p>\n I don’t want to come down too hard on the other side, the always kind and gentle folk because let’s face it, they’re a hell of a lot nicer to be around.\u00a0 But it doesn’t make their approach necessarily more healthy.\u00a0 Be gentle, be kind, be forgiving.\u00a0 There are times and places for these things, most of the time, many places.\u00a0 But sometimes?\u00a0 Sometimes we need to be tough, to protect, to fight, to put up our healthy boundaries and force others to respect them.\u00a0 ((Mind you, if you take the gentle, kind, forgiving to a different spiritual level, then a slap on the face can be the gentle and kind approach to a situation, but that’s a whole different conversation.))<\/p>\n And what drives that behaviour?\u00a0 A desire to be ‘good’?\u00a0 To do good?\u00a0 To be seen as good?\u00a0 Sometimes I wonder if there is a hint of the selfish behind some people’s sudden and intense embrace of such concepts.\u00a0 But that’s just some musing on my part.<\/p>\n The ranting is all about the Gimmees.\u00a0 They make me think evil, nasty thoughts, and not the good kind.<\/p>\n Perhaps Not Always Right by its very nature siphons off examples of the worst of us and it isn’t an epidemic of self-centredness.\u00a0 But still, but still…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" On my lunch break I have a couple of things I like to do to help me relax and rejuvenate. 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![Rose Garden<\/a> as well.\u00a0 Ah, July, when they are all in bloom and the smell wafts thither and fro, mmmmm.<\/p>\nI read Regretsy<\/a>.<\/p>\nIt soothes my snarky soul.<\/p>\nI read Not Always Right<\/a>.<\/p>\nAnd thus begins my little rant. On Not Always Right people share work stories that highlight the remarkable…encounters they have with their clientele.\u00a0 Okay, people are stupid.\u00a0 And many of the stories highlight that people are stupid.\u00a0 But it’s not the stupid that’s gotten to me.<\/p>\nNo, what’s making me grit my teeth is the repetitive examples of people who lie or yell or often lie and yell at the employee to get their own way.\u00a0 Such as lying that the employee got a hair in their sandwich (when it was their daughter’s hair) so as to get a refund & a free bagel.\u00a0 They’ll lie about who served them, what they were served, the state something was in, etc, etc.\u00a0 People are lying so that they can gain something for nothing.\u00a0 People are yelling and screaming at employees to again get something for essentially nothing.\u00a0 In some of the stories it is even acknowledged by the perpetrator that they’re doing it because that’s how you get something for free.<\/p>\nThis froths my ire.<\/p>\nWhat happened to the land of personal integrity?\u00a0 Of behaving as a decent human being?<\/p>\nWhen did it become so engrained into society that instead of curbing such behaviour we have somehow engendered its propagation.\u00a0 I see many notices of being positive of being friendly and kind pushed around on facebook.\u00a0 I think that these are lovely if not always realistic (because somedays you’re going to get mad and is it really wrong to get that way?)<\/p>\nAs I type this the thought occurs to me that this push to always be nice is simply the other side of the coin of the push to always be an asshole in order to get ahead.\u00a0 I’m not saying it’s wrong to be nice or right to be mean, not at all.\u00a0 But what about the folks on Regretsy who talk a mean line but who are frequently very generous, supportive and kind?\u00a0 What about the sweet people who can’t be bothered to actual help someone else?<\/p>\nThe point is, we are neither always kind nor always cruel, not in our humanism.\u00a0 We are both, a swirling mix of chocolate and vanilla into a marble cake (ohhhhh, cake) of positive and negative experiences and expressions.<\/p>\nAnd at the core of both of these is an inherent selfishness, isn’t there?\u00a0 The squeaky wheel is out to get whatever they can by whatever means (typically negative) they can.\u00a0 If I yell enough, someone will give me something to shut me up.\u00a0 Many people I think learn this in childhood from their parents – if I scream loud enough, my mommy will give me that cookie even though she said no originally (so parents, keep to your ‘no’s!).\u00a0 And no, I’m not blaming all parents, but there is a component there, don’t you think?<\/p>\nI don’t want to come down too hard on the other side, the always kind and gentle folk because let’s face it, they’re a hell of a lot nicer to be around.\u00a0 But it doesn’t make their approach necessarily more healthy.\u00a0 Be gentle, be kind, be forgiving.\u00a0 There are times and places for these things, most of the time, many places.\u00a0 But sometimes?\u00a0 Sometimes we need to be tough, to protect, to fight, to put up our healthy boundaries and force others to respect them.\u00a0 ((Mind you, if you take the gentle, kind, forgiving to a different spiritual level, then a slap on the face can be the gentle and kind approach to a situation, but that’s a whole different conversation.))<\/p>\nAnd what drives that behaviour?\u00a0 A desire to be ‘good’?\u00a0 To do good?\u00a0 To be seen as good?\u00a0 Sometimes I wonder if there is a hint of the selfish behind some people’s sudden and intense embrace of such concepts.\u00a0 But that’s just some musing on my part.<\/p>\nThe ranting is all about the Gimmees.\u00a0 They make me think evil, nasty thoughts, and not the good kind.<\/p>\nPerhaps Not Always Right by its very nature siphons off examples of the worst of us and it isn’t an epidemic of self-centredness.\u00a0 But still, but still…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"On my lunch break I have a couple of things I like to do to help me relax and rejuvenate. 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