What if, instead of focusing on the end result, we concentrated on what we are doing, right here, right now?<\/p>\n
I was reading an article on Yoni Massage and in it was reference to our almost pathological fixation on orgasms as the end result of sex. \u00a0And that in letting go of the goal or orgasms we can increase everyone’s pleasure in the process. \u00a0We can find greater connection to our sexuality and to our bodies, sensations and each other, by letting go of this goal fixation and enjoying the journey.<\/p>\n
I mean, really, isn’t that what so much “self help” is about? \u00a0Enjoying the journey?<\/p>\n
Don’t get me wrong, goals are a great thing. \u00a0I have goals. \u00a0I have daily goals and monthly goals and annual goals and life goals. \u00a0I review my goals, changing as appropriate, reorienting myself as needed, creating sub goals when advantageous. \u00a0Goals are darned useful things.<\/p>\n
When they are a tool.<\/p>\n
When they become the reason for movement, the only point of getting up is for the goal, then, then you run a risk of disappointment.<\/p>\n
Because it can rob you of enjoying today. \u00a0Right now. \u00a0This moment. \u00a0Because you’re not experiencing now, you’re viewing everything through the lens of The Goal.<\/p>\n
It can also rob you of ultimate satisfaction if for some reason that goals fails to manifest. \u00a0A man showcased\u00a0on Humans of New York yesterday had been focussed exclusively for 12 years on getting to the top of Everest. \u00a0In the end, the manifestation of that goal was not in his hands, it was in the mountain’s. \u00a0In other words, the illusion of control sneaks into this arena too, that if we work hard enough we can achieve anything. \u00a0As with any ‘truth’ there is a yes and a no to it.<\/p>\n
If you don’t get up and get doing towards your goal, it will never happen. That is a certainty.<\/p>\n
If you get up and get doing towards your goal, it may well happen. \u00a0It is not a certainty.<\/p>\n
But that is life. \u00a0Life changes and ebbs and flows and shifts and we adapt or get really, really frustrated and bitter.<\/p>\n
Letting go of the goal doesn’t mean not having one.<\/p>\n
Letting go of the goal doesn’t mean not working towards one.<\/p>\n
Letting go of the goal is about releasing it from being the only reason, the only consideration, the only purpose.<\/p>\n
It can be a best friend, a guide, a sherpa, a dance partner. \u00a0It is not you. \u00a0It does not own you. \u00a0It does not own your life.<\/p>\n
You do. \u00a0So own it. \u00a0Let go of the need to be at the end of the journey, to have arrived at the goal, and instead spend your awareness coin on the process of getting there. \u00a0You’ll be so much more satisfied when you arrive. \u00a0And with stories to share.<\/p>\n
Plus it’s good to stop and smell the roses on the way. \u00a0Just check for water droplets first so you don’t end up snorting water up your nose. \u00a0Life experiences, they come in large, small and sneeze inducing.<\/p>\n
~Saturn, the Abysmal Witch<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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